Black men in my generation don’t like highly intelligent women, who wants to do something with their life. I like intelligent women, but some men prefer an easy going welfare recipient type with no high school diploma, why? Because usually if he don’t want much out of life, the woman he choose is a reflection of him. Maybe they think they need to match me or I won’t even give them a chance.
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The men of your peer group don’t like you because you are overweight, moderately attractive and hides behind education/Black men blaming to obfuscate your. Faults.
Yeah I’m over weight in the right places people pay to have a body like mines, everyone has a type I might be moderately attractive to you but every time I go in public I get harassed, I don’t hide behind anything I’m just stating my opinion. I like intelligent women but I love wise women because they look at life in all dimensions and elevations. Then men in your area do not know what they want, I have never met a woman that can satisfy my mental and spiritual needs they all are physically qualifying but no common sense at all.
We like intelligent but not masculinized and aggressive black women. You have to stop labeling yourself and live..
Look for slightly older men that want those things in a woman. Those things don’t intimidate men around my age and older but I’m also sure not every guy in your generation are like that. There are always exceptions, there might be a guys saying the same thing somewhere
Young people tend to not really know themselves yet, and therefore aren’t ready for commitments in general. Give them a few more years and you’ll see a shift. Once a person is ready to make commitments, they’ll be more than happy to make those commitments with a person or persons who are intelligent and also mature and ready to make commitments.
I meet a lot of women bums that expect a man to clean their life up or want u to deal with all their problems I’m trying to figure out where are the women with their life together but a lot of times even when they have their life together it seems it still be issues not worth dealing with I see why a lot of my friends don’t date American women.
Smart focused athletic goal oriented common sense a woman with purpose is what any real man would want.
Your experience is your experience can’t nobody take that away from you but of all the black men you can date in your life time still wouldn’t be the majority so you gotta be careful when labeling something as the majority, maybe you haven’t been in certain areas where men are interested in building and starting families. Also you must show and prove you are about that yourself and these thoughts in action become reality.
I’m not talking about me specifically. I just observe a lot of highly intelligent black women that never finds a black man to date. When I ask why most of them say they didn’t give them a chance.
I observed the opposite. I see that with SOME intelligent women having a layer of prejudice and arrogance towards black men and that’s due to the environment they were educated in. In another sense two dominants can’t necessarily co exist together. We live in a society where artificial intelligence and social environments are cultivated outside of natural selection so the book smart or company intelligence acts as though it’s synonymous with nature dominate intelligence.
It’s a paradigm thing which sometimes the black man has not recognized and has a an expression of a past time as a result and the today’s woman can view as dysfunctional. Sometimes with all her education something essential is missing and yet she has an arrogant expression and feels the need to be at odds or in conflict with the black man while fake smiling with her white counterparts settling for second classicism but bangs on the black man for this reality which I wouldn’t say she’s completely wrong for to be honest.
I understand and witnessed that but using me as a example, I grew up in the hood and learned how to become a chameleon based on what environment I’m in. A lot of men rejected me after having a small conversation with me even if they started talking to me first.
A lot of us grew up in the hood and if your point is based on that then there’s something factual to it but like I said you gotta involved yourself in other circles as well and you will also find some of the brightest minds come from the hood. Be INTELLIGENT enough to know when you’re beating a dead horse when trying to have an intelligent conversation with some people sister.
I was using myself in the essence of being prejudice or arrogant. I’m in a book club with young women and my statement is always the source of discussion. The women in the group comes from all walks of life but I tend to hear the same thing. They man didn’t give them a chance.